Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, battering, family violence, and intimate partner violence (IPV), is defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one partner against another in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, or cohabitation.
Domestic violence, has many forms, including physical aggression or assault (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation.
AM I BEING ABUSED?
How is your relationship? Does your partner:
If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.
For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.
TEEN DATING ABUSE
Dating violence is a pattern of controlling behaviors that one partner uses to get power over the other, and it includes:
- Any kind of physical violence or threat of physical violence to get control
- Emotional or mental abuse, such as playing mind games, making you feel crazy, or constantly putting you down or criticizing you
- Sexual abuse, including making you do anything you don’t want to, refusing to have safe sex or making you feel badly about yourself sexually
Does your boyfriend/girlfriend:
- Have a history of bad relationships or past violence; always blames his/her problems on other people; or blames you for “making” him/her treat you badly?
- Try to use drugs or alcohol to coerce you or get you alone when you don’t want to be?
- Try to control you by being bossy, not taking your opinion seriously or making all of the decisions about who you see, what you wear, what you do, etc.?
- Talk negatively about people in sexual ways or talk about sex like it’s a game or contest?
Do you:
- Feel less confident about yourself when you’re with him/her?
- Feel scared or worried about doing or saying “the wrong thing?”
- Find yourself changing your behavior out of fear or to avoid a fight?
- Dating violence is more than just arguing or fighting.
Teens who abuse their girlfriends or boyfriends do the same things that adults who abuse their partners do. Teen dating violence is just as serious as adult domestic violence.
Teens are seriously at risk for dating violence. Research shows that physical or sexual abuse is a part of 1 in 3 high school relationships.
Abusive relationships have good times and bad times. Part of what makes dating violence so confusing and painful is that there is love mixed with the abuse. This can make it hard to tell if you are really being abused.
Unfortunately, without help, the violence will only get worse. If you think you may be in an abusive relationship, please call the National Dating Abuse Helpline to talk with someone about it. You can also call the Helpline for more information about dating violence or other resources for teens.